10 TIPS FOR MOVING ON

So your future, you've got everything planned and it seems just perfect. Suddenly a storm comes and turns all these plans into dust and everything just seems hopeless and lost. Weather you've already been through something like this in your life or not, it's not difficult to assume that moving on seems to be the hardest thing you've ever done.
Me and my best friend Bruna can say we've been through something like this at least once in our lives and so I decided to join her and gather 10 hopeful helpful tips for getting out of this hard time.

1 - GRIEVE

Feel it. Don’t hold it back. Find the best way to let the frustration out. Yell your lungs out on top of a hill or into a pillow, cry it out and let the tears run as fast as they can, break some dishes, burn some papers, or if you prefer, open that bottle of wine. Whatever it is will help, just remember not to do anything crazy. Don’t let it out on the people you love and don’t do anything you will regret in the morning. Let it take over you and then you can move on.

2 - TAKE SOME TIME

You could use some time away from the world. You can use that time to just not care about anything or to figure your life out. Reflect about what happened. Ask yourself some questions like “What can I learn from this?” or “What do I want for my future now?”… You can also reflect about the person you were and the person you now want to become and how to. Use this time to do nothing at all or to find yourself again.

3 - GO OUT WITH FRIENDS

Your friends are the best distraction from the real world. Convince them to break the routine, get out of your comfort zone and do something memorable. Do you want a better way to relax and not care about anything than to do it with friends? You won’t find it! But if you do let me know.

4 - MAKE A CHANGE

Think about it. Why not? Get a hair cut and embrace your new self. Paint the walls a different color and welcome your new future. Make new friends and do different things. Get rid of the things that remix you of the pass and replace them with new exciting ones.

5 - CREATE NEW PROJECTS

If the future does not seem very certain it is time to dedicate yourself to new exiting things. Whether it is a project or a hobby you always wanted to get into, this is the perfect time to do it. Give your all to it and who knows where it will take you? It’s definitely a good distraction as well and the more you love it the better!

6 - MAKE NEW GOALS

It’s time to figure out what to do next. What you wanted didn’t work out so find something similar or something alternative that you also love. Get all those life goals out of the box and start doing something to make them come true.

7 - FIND OTHER WAYS

If you liked your plan so much then find other ways to make it work. It might have not worked this time but it can in the future. Start by recognizing what was wrong and work it from there.

8 - IMPROVE YOURSELF

Find time to work on yourself, Improve your skills and learn new ones. Remember that education is key to a good future so work on those that will take you far and towards your goals and make sure you’re well informed about the world you want to be a part of.

9 - LOOK FORWARD

It is very important to only look forward. Only look back to learn your lessons but don’t stay for too long. Remember, the future is ahead. 

10 - BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

No need for an explanation, right?

I really hope these tips can help you if you ever go through something like this.

Sara and Bruna xo

Photo by Carolina Madureira